Soften and Lighten Hair Naturally

I've been using natural lightening methods for my hair since I was a little kid. It wasn't always lightening though. I've used rhubarb to redden it and coffee to darken it. Both of those methods are pretty effective, but they more coat hair where as lightening with anything acidic is usually permanent. Well, from what I understand it's always permanent. Definitely something to keep in mind. In addition to being permanent, they also tend to dry hair out. This is especially true with lemon juice treatments for your hair. If you’ve ever used lemon juice to lighten your hair, you know that you may need to chase it with a bottle of conditioner. I sometimes avoid using it just because of the tangled mess it produces. Which is saying a lot, because I'll typically take any excuse to lie in the sun reading magazines. 

So I tried to add coconut oil as a conditioner and it kinda just got messier, not to mention greasier. I also found out oil interferes with the lightning process. Who knew? At any rate, while trying to find the magic ingredient to soften AND lighten hair, I thought back to my No ‘Poo experiment, where you use vinegar as conditioner! Vinegar is also a great clarifier.

My trial by error experiment has finally been fruitful (no pun intended). And that is how this concoction was born. I hope you love it.

 Here’s what you’ll need:

  • Spray bottle
  • Measuring cup with a spout or a kitchen funnel will do to pour it into your spray bottle without a mess.
  • Sunlight – If you’ve got any this time of year, if not you’ll still get results. You can use a blow dryer for heat but it does work quite a bit better with some solar power.
  • Vinegar – I used apple cider vinegar
  • Lemon Juice
  • Honey
  • Chamomile Tea – I like using this Get Gorgeous tea from The Republic of Tea, mostly because it has such a cute message. It’s a Chamomile blend with Rooibos, Orange, Hibiscus, Red Clover, Chaste Berry, and Burdock. You may prefer straight Chamomile. It’s up to you.
  • Distilled water – This always works best when making beauty products at home.


  • Brew one tea bag in 4oz or 1/2 cup distilled water
  • Juice your lemon
  • Measure your lemon juice and get an equal amount of vinegar. Ex. If your lemon yields a quarter cup of juice match it with a quarter cup of vinegar.
  • Get two tablespoons of honey
  • Mix lemon juice and honey together – This is the easiest way to keep the honey from settling at the bottom
  • Now mix your vinegar into your honey/lemon juice mix
  • Finally add in your brewed tea – if it’s still a little warm that’s fine
  • Pour or funnel your mixture into a spray bottle
  • Get spraying!
  • Heat it up – Sun or hair dryer

Do you want all over color? Maybe just some strategic highlights. Play with it have fun. You can leave it in 30 minutes or 3 hours. I’ve done both. The best part of this mix is that it gives you soft hair while lightning. Try it. Have fun. I’d love to hear how it works for you, so leave a comment below.

Oh yeah! Are you concerned about the vinegar smell? No need. It’ll smell while your hair is wet but when your hair is rinsed out and dry, you’ll be in the clear. Also the citric acid in lemon juice is a natural preservative, so if you’ve got any left over product you can use it next week.